My husband converted to Islam. How should I treat him?
There is one passage in the Bible that speaks directly about this situation. You can find it in 1 Peter 3:1-6: “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external – the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewellery, or the clothing you wear – but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”
Accept your husband as head of the family
The Bible initially commands ladies to recognize their husband as the head of the household. It makes no difference if the husband is a Christian or not. God had the family set out in this way. Peter expressly addresses wives of unbelieving husbands in this text. He advises girls to show their husbands three aspects of their lives: decency, innocence, and a lovely attitude.
Respect him
There must be qualities in him you can admire, despite the fact that he is not a believer. It is expected of you to honor him as a man. This is crucial because, in a situation where he does not feel valued, it is extremely difficult for any guy to love his wife. Just as women need affection, males need respect. Purity is the second thing you owe your spouse. He may not be a believer, but it doesn’t mean you should start hunting for another partner. God has bonded you to one another. You ought to remain with him if he is content to have you stay with him (see 1 Corinthians 7:13). Every day, pray for him, asking God to show him his Son so he can also become a Christian.
Show a beautiful spirit
Peter finally calls you to display a lovely spirit. How can one get a lovely spirit? [By residing with Jesus]; by praying and reading the Bible; by relying on God rather than on oneself. Your spouse will find you “imperishable beauty” and will be drawn to you as a result. According to Peter, you may win him over “without words” in this manner.
Nagging
Peter is quite astute; it goes without saying that the Holy Spirit guided him while he was writing this. Because nothing irritates guys more than their spouses telling them what to do than this. They actually detest one thing even more: it is when their spouses continue to tell them things after they initially refuse to listen. Men who engage in what is known as “nagging” close their hearts and ears to their spouses. Peter tells you not to do it. Prove to your hubby how lovely your spirit is. Ultimately, he will inquire, “Why are you so wonderful?” Then you may state: it’s because of Jesus.
Do not fear
Finally, Peter makes a suggestion that a wife’s obligation to show her husband respect has some boundaries. The section is concluded by him saying, “Do not fear anything that is frightening.” Undoubtedly, having a Muslim husband might be intimidating. But Peter warns, “do not be afraid.” Never allow him determine your beliefs. Don’t allow him dictate to you how to serve God. Your allegiance to the Lord Jesus takes precedence over your husband. It is therefore likely that you will encounter a scenario in which you will need to declare, “I respect you as my husband, but I will not transgress God’s laws.”
Honor your spouse. Offer your prayers for him. Win him over with your lovely disposition. And maintain your faith with vigor.
